When Books Make You Angry

Who has read a book that drives you batty?  The kind of book where you want to reach out and strangle the main character?  I think we all have.  It’s pretty much human nature to not love everyone and everything.  The difference of that kind of book compared to a book that can actually make me angry, is that I will continue to read book number one and question the later.

Seriously.  There is a difference between being able to relate to a character or at least care.  That’s the difference, you care enough to want to throttle a character or you flat out hate a character and the author for what they’ve done.  Caring doesn’t mean you can always relate, but you care and want to strangle said character for going against your idea of better judgement.  The second example is that you have such an unlikable character it makes you want to throw the book into the kiddie pool and scream that you want your money back.20140527-155254-57174806.jpg

So that’s where i am. I’m reading a book that I might actually hate.  I honestly think the main character is stupid – mostly because it feels like the author hasn’t shown me enough to why the character is doing what she is doing.  Being that the book in on my kindle I won’t be throwing it into the pool.  I am however trying to decide if I continue.  Maybe the story is good enough to skim?  I guess I will take a break and make some bags of water for the kids.  They stay cool to the touch, which is super nice for summer and maybe my temper at this book.  Grrrrr.

 

 

Guilty – I Watch Terrible Movies

Anyone really embarrassed to admit they watch a movie or series?  I think a lot of people felt that way about Twilight – if you were over the age of 14 anyway. Well for me, my new guilty pleasuresteps are the terrible – and I MEAN TERRIBLE, Step Up Movies.  The plots are awful, well sub-par. The motives are weak and character development is far from well done.  So why do I watch them?  I love the music, the dancing, and the idea that it gets me off the couch to dance with my kids.  Plus, if you watch something mindless that has more music then dialogue you can actually multitask easily.

 Well, I did it.  I got that weight off my chest.  Phew. I feel so much better.

 So what is something you’ve watched recently that made you scratch your head and wonder, what the heck am I doing?

Thoughtful Tuesday – It’s Easier Looking In Than Out

It’s always easier as an outsider to see the problem – looking in on someone. Sometimes though, you need to step back and look at life in reverse. As they say “walk in their shoes.” Only then can you give advice that might actually be helpful.

That’s all folks. I’m amazed that my brain is capable of any thinking lately. To me, my life is rather crazy and my mind isn’t exactly keeping up. Will someone pinpoint the issue for me? I’m sure if I asked, I would have a thousand opinions and most wouldn’t be helpful.

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Thoughtful Tuesday – Anyone Can Cook

Anyone else like the movie Ratatouille?  I love the saying “Anyone can cook.”  That doesn’t mean I am taking up being a chef, although I did just get laid off and am looking into a career change.

What I like about it, is that it says that anyone can be anything and come from anywhere.  Not everyone is great at everything, but you can’t judge a book by its cover.  So for those that feel like you aren’t sure that you are cut out for something, ask your heart.  If you love it, then put the effort in and don’t listen to the doubters.  Learn from criticism and failure, improve and grow.

Just because a writer, or cook, or astronaut can come from anywhere doesn’t mean that we don’t have to listen to those around us in order to succeed.

On a lighter note – do you sometimes want to take your ideas and run with them? I mean literally run with them and throw them out the window?  Well here’s a little photo to make you smile.

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Thoughful Tuesday – Advice or Opinion?

When is it advice based on fact vs. an opinion from your own little mind?  There are a zillion books on writing, editing, and selling. Don’t stop there. Look at all the parenting books and books on finding your soul mate.  So out of all these books which ones are really helpful and which are simply a string of opinions that worked for one person. We are not cookie cutter. Just because Author A got published without editing a single word doesn’t mean Author B can do the same. Just because your child responds to time outs doesn’t mean that another child will. Now the book/movie, He’s Just Not that into You, might actually have some legs to stand on.

He's Just notWhat self-help or instructional books do you rely on? Writing, parenting, dating or otherwise. I personally like Dr. Sears books for child rearing and my own personal gut of course. I have yet to find a query letter book that is perfect, but The Guide to Query Letter’s isn’t bad. The Element of Style for basic grammar isn’t all that bad either – are there better?  I guess it depends on who you ask.

Thoughtful Tuesday – I Miss Motivation

I miss motivation. I feel like the kitty fell out of the tree. I love to write and will continue, but sometimes others successes make you feel like a failure. Or maybe that is just me. You wonder what’s their secret. Are they really that good or are they just lucky? Then you plot your own sick and twisted success story.

Well I had gotten to that point of success and yet the rug was removed from beneath my feet. So now what? I have no idea. Where do you go? I always believe everything has a purpose. God had this happen for a reason. Too bad I don’t have a cheat guide as to what the reason was.

Anyone have a surplus of motivation to share?

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And incase you don’t get the picture.  Susan “wants a real kitty hanging out of a real tree” when they decorated her cell with a “hang in there kitty” poster.  I couldn’t find the poster 😦  Oh and for those without kids this is from Monsters vs Aliens.

Thoughtful Tuesday – Life’s a Musical or Not

If life were a musical we could break out in song for every occasion. My child’s birth might have come complete with me dancing for joy right after pushing the sucker out. Unfortunately life isn’t. That doesn’t stop me from wondering though-what’s the theme song to my life story, at least today. Hmmm- well I think today it’s Help!by the Beatles.

Help, I need somebody,
Help, not just anybody,
Help, you know I need someone, help.

When I was younger, so much younger than today,
I never needed anybody’s help in any way.
But now these days are gone, I’m not so self assured,
Now I find I’ve changed my mind and opened up the doors.

Help me if you can, I’m feeling down
And I do appreciate you being round.
Help me, get my feet back on the ground,
Won’t you please, please help me.

And now my life has changed in oh so many ways,
My independence seems to vanish in the haze.
But every now and then I feel so insecure,
I know that I just need you like I’ve never done before.

Help me if you can, I’m feeling down
And I do appreciate you being round.
Help me, get my feet back on the ground,
Won’t you please, please help me.

When I was younger, so much younger than today,
I never needed anybody’s help in any way.
But now these daya are gone, I’m not so self assured,
Now I find I’ve changed my mind and opened up the doors.

Help me if you can, I’m feeling down
And I do appreciate you being round.
Help me, get my feet back on the ground,
Won’t you please, please help me, help me, help me, oh.”

Can you imagine a crazed mom with curlers in her hair, two children crying, dinner burning, and whatever else. This is how I imagine the scene- I stop what i’m doing, the kids freeze, and I break out in my plea. Maybe in a fifties kitchen. I’d twirl in my dress and end up looking forlorn on a chair in the end when life comes back. No I’m not wearing curlers for real and yes I’ve spent too much time thinking of this.

What’s your song and what life event would you die laughing about had it had its own ballad and dance number?

Thoughtful Tuesday – Holding It

The baby starts to cry and I’m a sucker. I can’t let him cry so I put my bladder’s needs aside and run (or do the potty dance) to his aide. I can’t help but think that this one action in life is applicable to more Pottythen just my bladder and baby.

When you have edits coming along – or if I do, I have a hard time diving into to a new story. Instead I am mentally holding back the new ideas.

Or maybe you have a major project at work or school that is making to hold back a million others.

I am sure there are better analogies, but what else does a mom of a new born think about at 3am? What are you holding back on in order to finish something else?

Thoughtful Tuesday – Perspective

Looking at my new baby, I can’t believe how tiny he is. Apparently though at 8 lbs he isn’t as tiny as I see him-according to nurses. I say pooh to that though. Compared to a toddler he is small. Was my daughter ever this little?

It’s all in perspective though, isn’t it? I guess this goes for anyone who’s ever questioned if they were good at something or even bad at something. Was a book written well or just a good story? Is it hard to write and raise kids and have a job? I think like most things, if you are in the situation you see it all as doable, even if you are struggling.

Have you ever taken a step back from something to decide if your perspective needed an adjustment? If not, sometimes it might be a good idea to try.

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Thoughful Tuesday – The Street Corner

Okay, I am talking about a street corner.  I know, i know.  What comes to mind – well okay that’s a loaded question.  Here is my thought though.  If I see a new ‘homeless’ or ‘needy’ person on a specific street corner all the time do I assume that corner is lucrative and they all have a rotation or that it’s horrible and even the desperate move on?  Should I make a mental note to skip that corner should life ever get that bad?street

Really though the new trend on street begging is to plaster a photo of your 5 kids and wife.  FYI what is your wife doing and why do all people in need have 5 kids?  I am not trying to be judgmental.  I’m just curious when it is you actually can believe the person on the corner is in need.  I’ve seen a lunch thrown away because the man wanted money. So don’t mind me if I am skeptical about motive.  I guess I will keep donating to actual organizations and hoping that they reach those in need.

I personally would prefer to keep donating to places like the VVA (www.pickupplease.org) and try and keep people of the streets in other ways.  I am a sucker for local animal shelters too.

What are your causes?  Do you have charities of choice?  I have a character in a book who’s a sucker – her story isn’t very well developed yet.  I think I just found her more inspiration thanks to the random people on the street corner in Denver.